Narcissism, Perfectionism and Aggression among Police Officers

We use the term "narcissism" to describe an inability to love caused by two things. The first is an infant's failure to develop past the point when it first begins to perceive its mother as separate from itself. Unlike Narcissus of the myth, our narcissist loathes himself. His rage has nowhere to go. It has no outlet because he and his frustrating mother are one. His internal reality and the world around him are one and the same. The second is that to the extent he has differentiated from his mother, he fears that his omnipotent rage will destroy her and himself. In an effort to protect his own life, he turns his fury on himself, thus preserving his mother, who keeps him alive, from destruction. This is called "the narcissistic defense" and stresses the part of the Narcissus myth which shows that Narcissus's preoccupation with himself destroys him, even though it is described more as self-love than self-hatred. The Narcissus myth, though, presumes a more evolved patient than the one we treat. To our thinking, Narcissus is not curable through enlightenment. He is not a fool, he is a victim.