How real is reality

Isn't being torn apart actually a way of experiencing wholeness? Is the person different from the personality? How much of ourselves is in our actions? What is the Other, who is this Other who interferes in our actions? When does a biography correspond to the facts? Is the biography confirmed as a fact thanks to the biographical method? How does the sensitization of an experienced moment influence a biography in the making? Does the sum of conscious and unconscious situations actually make up our biography? Is it possible to influence the course of events in our own lives? How does the experienced consciousness influence the lived spontaneity? Can spontaneity be called into consciousness at the moment of realisation? Do we rather strive for spontaneity or for reflection? Does spontaneity exist at all? Is the so-called spontaneity in reality the unconsciousness? What is the relationship between instinct and spontaneity?